When (White) Folks Wipe Their Hands Clean

So a little over a year ago, tired of being told by the white-washed non- mono communities that my experiences were too political, tired of being treated as irrelevant, and tired of being ignored I went and formed Intersectional Non-Monogamy. I created a course and everything.

No one else in non-mono circles had really even been talking about half the shit I brought up. It is still fucking horrific out there for minorities and the marginalized. And while some communities are just now talking about “diversity”, it’s too little too late.

So tell me why I discovered alleged abuser/missing stair Mel Mariposa (who was a member of INM and could only have learned about Intersectional Non-Monogamy from ME), AKA Polysingleish, fucking claiming that they’re going to be discussing Intersectional Non-Monogamy at the upcoming inaccessible —and very NOT intersectional — SoloPolyCon (but not even so much as invite the originator to ensure they don’t fuck it up, or at least to make sure they understand it?).

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Not only was I not consulted about this, but the response I received when I asked the organizers to not use a term they clearly don’t understand nor care about (their continued use of “poly” is an insult to Polynesian people; and the absolute irony of non-Black people leading discussion on intersectionality or referring to the term being “general” leads me to believe they just don’t give a damn).

It’s all the more puzzling because only I know the full definition of Intersectional Non-Monogamy, so how the fuck can they claim that anyone can claim something only I have been working on?

This is my request and the “answer” I received:

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Apparently, they don’t know Kimberle Crenshaw, nor this Black bitch who was also assigned female at birth.

Are they about to Columbus the idea literally created by and for Black women?

I know I’m not always a woman, but I’ve damn sure always been treated like one.

I have rarely been so disgusted. I guess my Black Life still doesn’t matter.

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