No Matter What, You Still Centered Your Whiteness Above Our Needs
Regardless of anything that was said or what happened, the issue is still a White issue. Like, Lola decided to let white people shit stop them; even if it was a flimsy excuse. White feelings still being centered, even if it’s not the reason they gave for leaving. That’s why Lola makes a shit ally. If you’re incapable of laying down your life if necessary for those you’re swearing you’re here to help, what the fuck kind of ally are you, really? You can’t make a difference if you can’t stomach some OTHER WHITE PERSON yelling at you and calling you out.
when ppl victimize themselves to the point that they cant see the harm they cause to others “It’s hard for some mentally ill people + victims of abuse to wrap their head around the fact that they in fact can be abusive/toxic. I feel like to be really conscious of your actions, you need to step away from yourself — realize that even though you may feel powerless a lot of the time, you do in fact have a lot of power to cause harm.” and “I hate that I was made to think that it was somehow my responsibility to deal with someone’s mental health issues or trauma, especially when I was clearly uncomfortable or rejected it. Just is not fair and really not cool.” — Nick Lovett